Single and Sober is happy to provide this useful resource to help make the sober dating process just a little bit easier for you. Do you really have to wait a year to start dating after getting sober? Single and Sober encourages newcomers to sobriety to wait a year before they start dating again. We […]
Twelve years ago I had become someone I didn’t recognize. After leaving the military I moved to Flagstaff, AZ and I was in party mode. But before long, Mr. Good Time became Mr. Unreliable. When my roommates staged an intervention (ok, multiple interventions) I knew it was time to get sober. I made an appointment […]
Last year I went on vacation with a family friend. I’m an agnostic at best—I believe our human brains can’t possibly know for sure what high power operates in this universe. My friend couldn’t be more different: she’s a Christian with an intense and personal relationship with God. The difference in our approaches to faith […]
The first time I spoke with a therapist, I was 11 years old. My parents divorced when I was 10, and based on my intense anger and depression, they thought it a good idea that I speak to someone. At the time, I wanted no part of talking to a stranger about my feelings. I […]
As I sit to write this essay, leg-shaking and fingers tapping, I’m filled with mild horror at how overwhelmingly qualified I am to share on this topic. Having celebrated eight years in recovery during December ‘21, I’ve lived through a full spectrum of life’s moments sober which have come with varying levels of anxiety. My […]
You’re out on a date and immediately click, but when it comes time to order drinks the person across from you sticks to mocktails. You know it shouldn’t be a big deal. But alcohol permeates our culture, so it can be a bit jarring to realize that you’re seeing someone who doesn’t drink. While some […]
Wellness, presence and balance: file these under ‘words I didn’t know until I got sober.” When I was living hard, I was unwell, unbalanced, and avoided being in the moment by way of drugs and alcohol. These were the telltale signs that my life had become unmanageable. In recovery, I’ve made a full 180° flip. […]
I was 15 when I saw my first show at the Roseland Ballroom in New York City. The Disco Biscuits played, everyone was high, and it felt like home. After living as an outcast in a preppy Long Island town, this was the literal band of misfits I’d hoped to find. That was two decades […]
Say Yes More Often 2020 was a tough year for dating. The global pandemic meant that it was near impossible to get together in person or even find the energy to talk with new people online. But 2021 has a lot of people feeling hopeful: a vaccine is on the horizon and many people are […]
A lot of us haven’t been on a real date for a long time due to quarantine and social distancing. The novel coronavirus has made it difficult for people to meet in person. As a result, online dating has taken off since Covid-19 was declared a pandemic last March. Before the pandemic, starting a virtual […]