Single and Sober is happy to provide this useful resource to help make the sober dating process just a little bit easier for you. Do you really have to wait a year to start dating after getting sober? Single and Sober encourages newcomers to sobriety to wait a year before they start dating again. We […]
When you’re ready to get sober, finding the right path can feel intimidating. There’s so much information online, from traditional 12-step groups to inpatient rehabs to harm-reduction strategies — when you’re new to recovery, it understandably feels like information overload. To help you navigate the next step on your journey, we compiled this list of […]
You’re newly sober and feeling great. Maybe you’re attending meetings, or regular therapy sessions; perhaps you’ve picked up a new hobby, like running or volunteering. You feel healthy and like you’re reaching your full potential, and you want to share that joy with someone. But there are nagging questions: how long should you be sober […]
Twelve years ago I had become someone I didn’t recognize. After leaving the military I moved to Flagstaff, AZ and I was in party mode. But before long, Mr. Good Time became Mr. Unreliable. When my roommates staged an intervention (ok, multiple interventions) I knew it was time to get sober. I made an appointment […]
Last year I went on vacation with a family friend. I’m an agnostic at best—I believe our human brains can’t possibly know for sure what high power operates in this universe. My friend couldn’t be more different: she’s a Christian with an intense and personal relationship with God. The difference in our approaches to faith […]
The first time I spoke with a therapist, I was 11 years old. My parents divorced when I was 10, and based on my intense anger and depression, they thought it a good idea that I speak to someone. At the time, I wanted no part of talking to a stranger about my feelings. I […]
As I sit to write this essay, leg-shaking and fingers tapping, I’m filled with mild horror at how overwhelmingly qualified I am to share on this topic. Having celebrated eight years in recovery during December ‘21, I’ve lived through a full spectrum of life’s moments sober which have come with varying levels of anxiety. My […]
You’re out on a date and immediately click, but when it comes time to order drinks the person across from you sticks to mocktails. You know it shouldn’t be a big deal. But alcohol permeates our culture, so it can be a bit jarring to realize that you’re seeing someone who doesn’t drink. While some […]
Wellness, presence and balance: file these under ‘words I didn’t know until I got sober.” When I was living hard, I was unwell, unbalanced, and avoided being in the moment by way of drugs and alcohol. These were the telltale signs that my life had become unmanageable. In recovery, I’ve made a full 180° flip. […]
I was 15 when I saw my first show at the Roseland Ballroom in New York City. The Disco Biscuits played, everyone was high, and it felt like home. After living as an outcast in a preppy Long Island town, this was the literal band of misfits I’d hoped to find. That was two decades […]