Whether you’re in a committed relationship or dating around, romance isn’t always easy. Your love life can get even more complicated after getting sober — and more complicated still if you start dating someone who still drinks. Dating someone who isn’t sober when you are presents a unique set of challenges. Though it can be […]
Whether your partner is also in recovery or not, the program is sure to touch your relationships. When Sarah C. and William C. began dating after they met in a Vermont treatment center in 2016, their friends and family were skeptical. After all, dating in AA during early recovery is generally frowned upon, since tradition […]
Written by Lindsey Whittaker Edited by Deb Kavis It’s finally happened. You’ve met this perfect person who just gets you and with whom you have fun and can even see a future. Everything has been going so great. That is, until they tell you they’re sober – and not just sober but going to AA […]
In a now famous Ted Talk, British journalist and author of Chasing The Scream Johann Hari shared his conclusion from significant research, that the opposite of addiction is not sobriety but connection. Hari’s opinion is supported by psychiatrist and author Dr. Gabor Maté, who identified issues of isolation and poor interpersonal relationships as key issues […]
Many questions and concerns can arise when someone is considering dating a recovering addict. For those who have not had the experience of addiction, lack of knowledge can be the greatest challenge. Addiction recovery is a complex process and it is important to understand what that process entails when entering a relationship with a recovering […]
Reentering the dating world in midlife can be both exciting and stressful. Statistics are showing a growing trend in middle aged single (divorced, widowed) people. Add to that the the average life expectancy in the US is between 78 and 81 years old and we find a large number of single people with many vibrant […]
The holidays can be a stressful time of year for anyone. For those of us who are entering the holiday season sober, things can feel additionally stressful. From travel to relationships with family and loved ones, coping with holiday-related emotions can take some skill and effort. The following are some of the most important tips […]
As if getting sober isn’t hard enough, we basically have to relearn how to do everything. By using alcohol, drugs, or other destructive behaviors, we’ve been numbing our emotions for years. I don’t know about you, but when I was drinking, relationships were definitely not my strong suit, in fact they were my downfall. From […]
In January 2015 I decided to admit defeat to my 10 year battle with drugs, specifically cocaine and prescription medication. Also in January 2015 I began talking to a girl on the internet named Emelie. And this is our story. On New Years Eve 2014, on a day which was to be one of my […]
Truer words were never spoken. Many of us who enter into sobriety have a flawed view on what sex means. Some of us used sex as a way to get what we wanted when active in the disease of addiction, others used it is a form of control, and majority of us had little to […]